We tend to believe that you need some luck to be successful. A study shows that it is possible to create happiness in all areas of your life. As? Read on and you will find out.
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I’ll tell you a secret: when I was seven and knew a difficult day was coming, I put on my Spider-Man underwear. The superhero was my favorite and it gave me an odd sense of certainty that allowed me to face any difficulty. It didn’t matter if it was Tuesday (PE day), if I ran into the bully in the classroom or if I hadn’t studied for the test: When I wore my The Amazing Spider-Man boxers, I felt like I was lucky My side.
And my little ritual worked. At least that’s what I thought.
Many years later, on various job boards, I heard the team’s Star Sales Manager keep repeating the same sentence: “Luck is given out at six in the morning.” She didn’t talk about underwear, amulets, or cabals. He was simply referring to the strength we all have to create our own happiness through work.
When we hear that someone has been successful, we usually associate their story with coincidence, coincidences, or true sparks of luck that can illuminate a person’s life forever. We seldom stop thinking about what’s behind this moment. We see neither the effort nor the distance covered. We see neither the doubts nor the stumbling blocks. We don’t see all the decades a person got up before it was six in the morning …
Hopefully building a reality
There are subjects that make life smile. Everything seems to be going well for her. They are the lucky ones in the world who always succeed. There are others who fight. His days are clouded, his plans are cut short, his projects are disappearing. These unfortunate ones were unlucky and seem doomed to live with it until the end of their days.
In 1993 the English psychologist Richard Wiseman tried to decipher what really happened to these two groups of people. What made them different? Why did some always seem to be in the right place and at the right time and others not?
Wiseman placed advertisements in various newspapers and was able to recruit 400 people between the ages of 18 and 84 years. Half of them said they were “happy” and claimed to be fulfilling their dreams; The others verbalized that they were always unlucky and claimed that things rarely went their way.
The researcher talked to them for years, interviewed them, asked them to keep a daily diary, and subjected them to various tests and experiments. And although he could never explain the randomness of human existence, he found some patterns of thought and behavior that seemed to directly influence the happiness of individuals …
Wiseman’s experiments
The first thing Wiseman did was ask individuals to count the number of photos that were printed on the pages of a journal. On average, it took the unlucky group two minutes to complete the task, while the lucky group did it in a matter of seconds. The reason? On the second page of the paper was the message: “Stop counting. This newspaper contains 43 photos. “The text took up half a page and yet only those who said they were lucky could see it.
Through various personality tests, Wiseman found that the unhappy group suffered from greater anxiety than the happy group. Fear makes it harder for a person to perceive things that are not obvious. The researcher concluded that people who say they are out of luck are usually concerned about one thing and it doesn’t allow them to see anything else. What you no longer see may be newspaper ads … or great life opportunities that could change your life. People who say they are lucky tend to be more relaxed and open-minded. this helps them perceive everything around them, not just what they were looking for.
Wiseman observed the behavior of both groups at social events. The unfortunate people came to the meetings with a clear idea of who they would be sitting with, who they would talk to and who they would live with, while the happy people would be more relaxed and willing to come to the same events and talk to whoever it was .. . I know him.
The secret of happiness in three easy steps
Using the results of his studies, Richard Wiseman tried to develop a recipe for gaining luck that seems to be valid to this day. These are the behaviors the researcher suggests to attract happiness in life and in business:
- Keep your mind (and eyes) open. The obsession with achieving the goal you set yourself a long time ago can lead to the fact that you no longer see what is around you. You may have a huge advertisement in front of you asking you to stop counting photos, look back and realize that there is much more in the world than you are overwhelmed by today. Give way to your fears, look up and dare to see the world from another place.
- See the good side of things. Every tragedy brings an opportunity. Nailing yourself into what you have not achieved, into what has not come out, into the expectation that has not been fulfilled threatens to tarnish not just one day but your whole life. Take the time to see what you accomplished, who you are, and how you got to this day alive. Embrace the positive and make an effort to let go of negative thoughts. Never let tragedy define you.
- Do something extraordinary (at least) once a week. Routine gives us security. Wake up at the same time. Breakfast like yesterday. Take the same route to the office. Order the same coffee. Routine gives us security, but also limits us. Break it open and let opportunities and new people come into your life. You don’t know what they will bring you, but it is likely that with these new activities I also got the fortune that you think didn’t exist.
You already know: dare to experiment, to break the routine, to redefine yourself, to be different, to free yourself from what has caught you. Meet, chat, and never let fear guide you.
Apparently, that’s what happy people do every day of their lives. So get up at six in the morning … or at nine … or at ten with the wisdom that happiness is not shared: you create it as you exist.
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